1 Authentic Woman

Sunday, June 23, 2013

GUEST BLOGGER *Stylicia Bowden~ You Deserve Love!!

I hadn't blogged  in a while. I haven't blogged because I am working on my presales for my book WANTED:Womanhood.  But I couldn't allow you to not get ANYTHING.  You guys have read my guest blogger. Her is one of her recent blogs.

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You Deserve Love!

Often times people never embrace love because they believe they never deserve it. ~Stylicia~
 
 
 
It has been a little while since I have written on my blog however, life can sometimes be consuming but in my consumed state growth was happening. I learned some important life lessons that have challenged me and made me a better woman. In the last five months I have noticed a difference  in myself and recognize the woman I am becoming daily. I realize in my growth process I was confronted with the issue of learning to no longer be scared of love. For so long I have been accustomed to dodging love, making excuses and believing I did not deserve to be loved. I spent many years believing I was not worthy of someone loving me because of my imperfections. Every romantic relationship I had ended up with me being alone; this was never the picture I painted or fantasized about. However, this year I got tired of doing love my way and told God I would give my love life and dating life over to him. I made a decision to focus more on my dreams and aspirations to live my life more abundantly. I am a firm believer you can have it all the career, the man and the prosperity but it will mean patience is defintely required for the journey. Once I made a decision to stop looking for love and let love find me I became a happier soul. In my journey of living life abundantly I realized today I was no longer scared to love, the fear of love was no longer a fear. I was no longer scared to be transparent or vulnerable and love the man that will be compatible for me.
 
I had to learn the truth about the power of loving myself unconditionally. When you understand that love is attracted to you because it is who you are then love will not be hard to attract. As the months slip by in 2013 I am becoming more aware of how beautiful love is and can be. As a woman I have learned the secret of attracting love from a man is learning to love yourself and treat yourself with respect and unconditional love. I never felt like love was as close to me as it is now in my life. I understand who is the ultimate source of love---God. God is love. Love is fulfilling and incredible when you understand its power, its virtue and how much you deserve love. I started to affirm myself by being aware of how much I needed to love myself before anyone else could love me. Today, I challenge you to look at love differently and challenge your love walk for yourself. Do you love you for all of who you are..whether good or bad? What are the negative things you are saying to yourself about love? Do you fear love? If you answered Yes to any of these questions today is the day you tell yourself "I Deserve Love". It's time to break up with the false fearful image of love and affirm to yourself boldly: "I am love, I deserve love, I will not rush, force, manipulate or be deseparate or needy for love. I will be patient with love and prepare myself for love by loving myself first." The best example of love is godly love when Jesus died on the cross for you. Understand love is patient, kind, and all other things 1 Corinthians chapter 13 discusses. It is time for you to get a better realtionship with love by understanding you deserve to be loved.
 
 
Love Yourself First Then Love Can Love On You.....
 
Personal Challenge: Write Yourself a love letter!

Saturday, June 8, 2013

Different Kind of Swagg

     The past few months I have been going through some changes.  Yeah, things in life change. Some things that are way beyond my control.  I have always heard that women start coming into their own in their 30s.  I believe that.  What I also believe is that a woman doesn't really come into her own until she begins to walk in who she was created to be.
     I have had some major changes in my life and lifestyle the past few years; a move to another state, two major break up, change in job, a different church and now completing my book.  These changes have shaped me just like my life previous to those changes shaped me. I would say that the more recent years have pushed me more in the direction of who I am created to be.
     I notice I smile a little more. I laugh a lot more.  I live a lot more. My walk is different. My conversation is different. My connections are different.  I am different.  I have started living the life that I said that I would live as a little girl in the third grade.  When my children got grown and gone I will write and travel.  I have decided NOT to wait until they are grown and gone.
     My first book release in a few weeks and I have another book project that I am currently brainstorming.  I realized to be my AUTHENTIC SELF, the woman that I was created to be, that it is my purpose in life is to SACRIFICE AND SERVE.  With the understanding that my life is not about myself, in order for me to be fulfilled living my life it is important for me to do what I was created to do.
     What will happen if I don't do what I was created to do?  The people that I am suppose to help will suffer and the people that they will help will suffer and so on.  The funny thing is that since I have become aware of who I am created to be, I have a different kind of swag