The State of Relationship

     In a time when so many women are complaining about the quality of men, what I find is the quality of women AIN'T all that either.  There is nothing wrong with being independent but when a man doesn't know where he fits in YOUR world, he is probably gonna step. Another thing, women seem to have a list of things that they want this man to have....but they AIN'T bringing not even half of what they are expecting the man to bring. That is a general statement. Another thing some "independent" women seem to think that when they get a man with some "stature", status or stuff that they have ARRIVED. That is HIS. These are general observations and of course do not reflect all women or the women that I am connected with. There is not a shortage of quality men or women. Women have unfortunately changed and some have lowered their standard to have a man, PERIOD. Some women are so independent they are ALONE.  Being a woman of standard requires you to set a standard and maintain it. As a women I believe it is very important for me to be fit mentally,physically, financially and spiritually.  I have no right to expect that the man in my life has all of those qualities and I am not bringing nothing but my body to the table. Yeah, I said it. Having your own personal happiness is important because in a relationship or not NOBODY can make you happy except YOU.
     For those of you that decided to continue reading....It is important to have a connection with who you are.  It is important to be fulfilled in your own personal space before you invite another person in. That means a mate and even having children. There isn't a thing that has been created that will MAKE you happy.  No amount of shoes, handbags, cars, homes or money can bring happiness.  So the state of relationship is all dependent on your own personal state of mind.  If you aren't happy with your lifestyle that can and will reflect in you exterior(appearance) and interior( emotions and mood).  This aura that presents itself and attracts what you give off.  The Law of Attraction is the belief that like attracts like and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts you can bring positive or negative results.  One could also relate this principle biblical,(Proverbs 18:21) Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Death and life speaks of positive and negative.
    The state of relationship starts with SELF! What you thing is just as important as what you say because what you think will eventually be said.  Think positively seems simple but is harder than you think.  Write affirmations and post them where you can see them daily.  Maybe you are struggling in school and close to graduation....get a graduation cap or Commencement Ceremony program and display it on a mirror.  You want to loose a little weight maybe put up a picture of you when you weighted less or even someone that you strive to get their size.  Start saying aloud who you are to fight the negativity in your head or even the negativity that other say.   Relate/connect to positive people.  Stop taking calls from negative influences, you would be surprised who your negative influences are. Don't be rude, start talking positive they will either fall off or jump on the positive bandwagon. Start reading positive things, do your research.
Total Law of Attraction by David Che~Amazon
Wanted:Womanhood by Trenace' Carter~  http://www.createspace.com/4086113 and via Kindle
How Love Got Started by Gwendolyn B. Frazier Elmore~  http://www.amazon.com/dp/0615833489/ref=tsm_1_fb_lk and via Kindle
The Power of Positive Thinking
Keys to Happiness
     Finally, start your day in a posture of gratitude! Consider, starting your night before your work week in expectation of an EXCELLENT week.  Start a ritual. Shower before bed then read something positive before you sleep. I am not going to tell you to take your tv out of your room. I didn't! Be cautious of what you watch before you sleep. Meditate/pray then shower before you start your day.  Your home should be your Queendom free from drama and clutter, your bedroom even more so.  Positive energy, positive people, positive thing create a POSITIVE State of Relationship!
Be Happy, Be Authentic, Love Live <3

Peace and Continued Blessings 

Much Love From a Queen to a Queen

How can you call yourself a bi*&h or a dime then consider yourself a queen?
The definition of QUEEN
1.a female sovereign or monarch.
2.the wife or consort of a king.
3.a woman, or something personified as a woman, that is foremost or preeminent in any respect
A queen is a lady. She behaves like royalty. Her high standard IS the standard. She doesn't have to say she is the queen. It is common knowledge. She doesn't have to tear down another woman for her to rise or shine. She accepts nothing less than the best. She talks of prosperity. She is prosperity. She helps others. She loves others and others love her. Stilettos, gym shoes, dress or jeans with a tee she has a special kind of swagger that she wears called confidence. She is treated like a queen by her KING. He appropriates her. He loves her confidence, her grind and her authenticity. He protects, supports and takes care of her. She values his insight and wisdom. He gives her honesty. She appreciates his guidance. She is cool with him taking charge. As a matter of fact, she delights in him handling things. So for you WANNA be QUEENS....put some clothes on and leave something to the imagination. Stop calling yourself a bit*h or a down grading yourself to a dime. Stop calling your "girl" a bi&*h and don't accept a MALE to call you a dime. Step out with confidence, looking good, smelling good and prepared to handle business. You don't have to talk about another woman negatively for your light to shine. Keep your mouth SHUT! When you talk speak words of purpose and positivity. Every MALE that complements you don't not have a real interest in you. Open your eyes, keep your lips zipped and shut your legs. A King is going to take the time to know you mind and spirit then as the relationship progresses your body. Stop giving your stuff away to every Tom and Harry with a d*&k then said he did you wrong when HE decides he is done with you. All men are not dogs! Your poor choices puts you in a cycle that is never ending with the same results. If you want a different result do something different.

Much Love from a Queen to a Queen