I
have heard that phrase "feeling some type of way" for a few years. I
never really understood what that meant. How could you NOT know what way you
feel? That doesn't make sense to me. It is ok to have an emotion. Live that emotion:
anger, fear, hurt, disappointment, discouraged....whatever that feeling is,
FEEL IT!!! Emotions aren't weak. Emotions are HUMAN. Emotions are what set us
aside from all other animals on the planet.
Do
you not want to feel vulnerable? Is there something wrong with feeling
vulnerable? Are you concerned what people would think of you if you said what
it is that you feel? Do you know what you are feeling?
I
think there are several reasons that people in general and
woman....specifically: women have been taught that there is no strength in vulnerability,
women are concerned how others SEE them, woman are concerned what others THINK
of them, woman are concerned with what others FEEL about them. We have lost our
nature to nurture and because of that we FEEL SOME KIND OF WAY when it comes to
our emotions.
We
aren't safe nor secure in who we are, therefore it is difficult for us to
accept the emotion that we feel. We are ill equipt to live in our authentic
emotion which makes it difficult to live an AUTHENTIC lifestyle. The fast few
days I had been at a level of emotion that I didn't understand. There were a
multitude of emotions swirling around, so much so it activated a bout with
eczema. I was angry, frustrated, sad and crying. That wasn't " some kind
of way" that was EXACTLY what I said it was feeling! I was sad because I
looked at a memory of a gift that a received from someone that I loved in the
past. I was frustrated and with my children. I was crying because I was
overwhelmed.
It
is normal to have emotions. Your options are to decide to have your emotions or
let your emotions have you. Letting your emotions have you means that they
control how you operate your day to day life. Many times our emotions can
betray us. They betray us every time we are unsure of the emotion, why we have
the emotion every time we make a decision based on that TEMPORARY feeling.
I
am angry. I am sad. I am disappointed. Why is it always the "negative
emotions" that are labeled with that verbiage?Stop saying," I feel
some type of way". Say...I am not sure what this is then INVESTIGATE what
it is and why you feel that way. When you take the opportunity, it allows you
to learn more about yourself and how best to navigate in that moment. In the
even that feeling erupts again, you know what that feeling is and are better
prepared to operate. Learn how to accept the emotion and even accept what
caused the emotion to erupt.
Today
is NOW, tomorrow has passed stop missing out on life, "feeling some kind
of way"!
I
love you
#BeHappy
#BeAuthentic
#BeGreat
It
is so interesting how we live a life of more than enough but it isn't enough.
That doesn't make sense does it? We have had enough of people but still
maintain connection with them. We have had enough of work yet continue to get
up daily going to a place that we are sick of. We continue to maintain a status
quo in a life of convenience and comfort. We maintain connections with people,
places and things that don't fulfill us. Why?!
Fear
of what people might think or say about us. Fear of not meeting expectations
that other set for us. Ashamed to even say what it is that our heart truly
desires. Do we even know what I hearts desire anymore? Do we know what it means
to live life on our own terms? Do we know what happiness really is? Do we
really know what life is? Do we know when enough is enough?!
I
have heard so many people say that when they reached that moment of
enough...they just simply QUIT. They quit jobs, quit mates, stopped going to
places, quit answering calls, stopped answering questions, quit wasting time.
Maybe they snapped!! They went to work one day and said," I am tired of
this". They turned over and looked at their mate," there has got to
be more than this". Or even said....I just am not filling fulfilled and
need to do what really makes my heart smile. In that moment, that very moment,
is when the AUTHENTIC switch switches on. That isn't the last time.
Every
time, we say yes to our own happiness and not to pleasing someone else the
light flickers brighter. Don't misunderstand me...being selfish and being self
FUL are two different things. Being self FUL allows you to be good to yourself
which in turn allows you to be your best for others. It is more about joy, an
internal happiness, no matter what is going on around you...your heart is still
happy. You are still moving forward in your personal best success.
When
you are moving forward at your best it allows you to be better for those around
you. It allows you to be a better mom, sister, friend, daughter, employee,
employer or how ever many hats you wear. Have you reached your enough moment?
When will you know? What do you do?
Stop
trying to be strong for everyone because you have had ENOUGH of that!
