Thanksgiving "Season"

Today is Thanksgiving. The holiday season has started. I have always found it interesting that people seem "thankful" during the holiday season but not so much before. I have watched people post on Facebook...... Day  ??: I am thankful for.....

The holiday season seems like it is the only time family gets together unless there is a sickness or death. I find it strange that it seems to be the time that the homeless an less fortunate are thought about. This is the season that there are more death due to suicide. This is the time of the year were more people suffer from depression.

I am not exactly who made the decision to make a holiday season a time to be thankful. Giving thanks should be a lifestyle. Being grateful should be just as natural as breathing. Helping others is something to do because it is what we were born to do. It shouldn't only happen because it is the holiday.

EVERYDAY is a day of thanksgiving! Every day we should be thankful for the fact that we have opened our eyes and have another chance to do something for someone else.  It isn't because we have been so good or wonderful. Every morning we rise we are given new grace and new mercy. Now imagine if God chose to give us everything during the "holiday season"

Giving thanks allows room for more in the natural & supernatural realm. When you say thank you in the natural to other they receive and accept appreciation. You have gotten their attentions and they are more likely to help or do for you again. God moves that same way! When we give thanks He smiles. I imagine He says look at my child, what else can I do. When you make the sacrifice to give thanks when you are going through, you have really gotten His attention! 

Give thank in everything, not just for a "holiday season". 

Until next time

Be Happy

Be Authentic

Love Life

The State of Relationship

     In a time when so many women are complaining about the quality of men, what I find is the quality of women AIN'T all that either.  There is nothing wrong with being independent but when a man doesn't know where he fits in YOUR world, he is probably gonna step. Another thing, women seem to have a list of things that they want this man to have....but they AIN'T bringing not even half of what they are expecting the man to bring. That is a general statement. Another thing some "independent" women seem to think that when they get a man with some "stature", status or stuff that they have ARRIVED. That is HIS. These are general observations and of course do not reflect all women or the women that I am connected with. There is not a shortage of quality men or women. Women have unfortunately changed and some have lowered their standard to have a man, PERIOD. Some women are so independent they are ALONE.  Being a woman of standard requires you to set a standard and maintain it. As a women I believe it is very important for me to be fit mentally,physically, financially and spiritually.  I have no right to expect that the man in my life has all of those qualities and I am not bringing nothing but my body to the table. Yeah, I said it. Having your own personal happiness is important because in a relationship or not NOBODY can make you happy except YOU.
     For those of you that decided to continue reading....It is important to have a connection with who you are.  It is important to be fulfilled in your own personal space before you invite another person in. That means a mate and even having children. There isn't a thing that has been created that will MAKE you happy.  No amount of shoes, handbags, cars, homes or money can bring happiness.  So the state of relationship is all dependent on your own personal state of mind.  If you aren't happy with your lifestyle that can and will reflect in you exterior(appearance) and interior( emotions and mood).  This aura that presents itself and attracts what you give off.  The Law of Attraction is the belief that like attracts like and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts you can bring positive or negative results.  One could also relate this principle biblical,(Proverbs 18:21) Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Death and life speaks of positive and negative.
    The state of relationship starts with SELF! What you thing is just as important as what you say because what you think will eventually be said.  Think positively seems simple but is harder than you think.  Write affirmations and post them where you can see them daily.  Maybe you are struggling in school and close to graduation....get a graduation cap or Commencement Ceremony program and display it on a mirror.  You want to loose a little weight maybe put up a picture of you when you weighted less or even someone that you strive to get their size.  Start saying aloud who you are to fight the negativity in your head or even the negativity that other say.   Relate/connect to positive people.  Stop taking calls from negative influences, you would be surprised who your negative influences are. Don't be rude, start talking positive they will either fall off or jump on the positive bandwagon. Start reading positive things, do your research.
Total Law of Attraction by David Che~Amazon
Wanted:Womanhood by Trenace' Carter~  http://www.createspace.com/4086113 and via Kindle
How Love Got Started by Gwendolyn B. Frazier Elmore~  http://www.amazon.com/dp/0615833489/ref=tsm_1_fb_lk and via Kindle
The Power of Positive Thinking
Keys to Happiness
     Finally, start your day in a posture of gratitude! Consider, starting your night before your work week in expectation of an EXCELLENT week.  Start a ritual. Shower before bed then read something positive before you sleep. I am not going to tell you to take your tv out of your room. I didn't! Be cautious of what you watch before you sleep. Meditate/pray then shower before you start your day.  Your home should be your Queendom free from drama and clutter, your bedroom even more so.  Positive energy, positive people, positive thing create a POSITIVE State of Relationship!
Be Happy, Be Authentic, Love Live <3

Peace and Continued Blessings 

Much Love From a Queen to a Queen

How can you call yourself a bi*&h or a dime then consider yourself a queen?
The definition of QUEEN
1.a female sovereign or monarch.
2.the wife or consort of a king.
3.a woman, or something personified as a woman, that is foremost or preeminent in any respect
A queen is a lady. She behaves like royalty. Her high standard IS the standard. She doesn't have to say she is the queen. It is common knowledge. She doesn't have to tear down another woman for her to rise or shine. She accepts nothing less than the best. She talks of prosperity. She is prosperity. She helps others. She loves others and others love her. Stilettos, gym shoes, dress or jeans with a tee she has a special kind of swagger that she wears called confidence. She is treated like a queen by her KING. He appropriates her. He loves her confidence, her grind and her authenticity. He protects, supports and takes care of her. She values his insight and wisdom. He gives her honesty. She appreciates his guidance. She is cool with him taking charge. As a matter of fact, she delights in him handling things. So for you WANNA be QUEENS....put some clothes on and leave something to the imagination. Stop calling yourself a bit*h or a down grading yourself to a dime. Stop calling your "girl" a bi&*h and don't accept a MALE to call you a dime. Step out with confidence, looking good, smelling good and prepared to handle business. You don't have to talk about another woman negatively for your light to shine. Keep your mouth SHUT! When you talk speak words of purpose and positivity. Every MALE that complements you don't not have a real interest in you. Open your eyes, keep your lips zipped and shut your legs. A King is going to take the time to know you mind and spirit then as the relationship progresses your body. Stop giving your stuff away to every Tom and Harry with a d*&k then said he did you wrong when HE decides he is done with you. All men are not dogs! Your poor choices puts you in a cycle that is never ending with the same results. If you want a different result do something different.

Much Love from a Queen to a Queen

Be Happy, Be Authentic

WANTED WOMANHOOD was released August 1, just 30 days ago.  It has been exciting! I have had a few book signing and my first overseas sales.  I have had a radio interview. The first book I sold was to a MAN.  I would say that this has been the happiest that I have been in a long time.  I have started living in who I am created to be.  The only thing is......I really HATE my job!  It was just an ends to a means. I work, go to school, parent, write and now I am trying to establish a business.  Work leaves me so unfulfilled. Work is just that, WORK. Now that I have released my book work has become even more irritating than it was in the first place.  It is just a check. It is just a resource. I changed when I started writing. I felt free. I was more calm and even more pleasant to deal with.
What has changed? The fact that I have made the choice to BE AUTHENTIC, I have become happy.
      There are so many people in the world that are just unhappy. They are just living....getting up in the morning going to their job, doing for children, loved ones, eating the same meal.  Then you can't figure out why you are always bored. You are bored because you are going from station to stations with no highs, just a lifestyle of uneventful events. I have been there. I have been so deep in it that I didn't even smile. I smile a lot more now!
     So what does it take to get to this utopia?  Well, for me it took me letting go! I let go of what I thought others wanted from me and for me. I started investing time in myself.  When I started investing in me, my worth grew hence my value to others grew.  Who I am created to be has nothing to do with the mistakes I have made. I have made plenty. God hadn't changed his mind about what He wanted me to do. He hadn't changed his mind about who He wanted me to be.  I just had chosen not to accept it.  The fact that I had chosen not to accept it put me in a place of being unfulfilled.  It put me in a state of living station to station. I was just existing, taking up space.
     Getting to happy is a destination.  It is also a choice.  You can get up everyday, on purpose, happy.  You could also choose to just get up.  It is a blessing to wake up because everyone that started the same time as you won't end the same time as you. There are people that died without the chance to live in their purpose. They didn't figure out what their purpose was.  They didn't get the chance to be happy.  Being happy comes from a decision made daily to live your life like there is not tomorrow.  Being happy comes  from living AUTHENTIC. Living authentic comes out of telling the truth to yourself about your desires, faults and issues.  Living authentic requires you to be free to be who you are created to be.
Be Happy
Be Authentic

IT'S HERE!!!

 Wanted Womanhood

The Secretes to Living Your Authentic Life

I hadn't blogged in a while because I had been pretty busy with school, work, being a parent and writing my 1st book. I have completed my book and I have officially released a limited edition. For the first 50 that tweet, fb, instagram, or email you I will send you a discount code. The rules of the discount code are to have some integrity and only use the code once. Don't pass it on to your friends. Once I reach the 50 codes and 50 purchased the discount will shut down.

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I hadn't blogged  in a while. I haven't blogged because I am working on my presales for my book WANTED:Womanhood.  But I couldn't allow you to not get ANYTHING.  You guys have read my guest blogger. Her is one of her recent blogs.

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You Deserve Love!

Often times people never embrace love because they believe they never deserve it. ~Stylicia~

 

 

 

It has been a little while since I have written on my blog however, life can sometimes be consuming but in my consumed state growth was happening. I learned some important life lessons that have challenged me and made me a better woman. In the last five months I have noticed a difference  in myself and recognize the woman I am becoming daily. I realize in my growth process I was confronted with the issue of learning to no longer be scared of love. For so long I have been accustomed to dodging love, making excuses and believing I did not deserve to be loved. I spent many years believing I was not worthy of someone loving me because of my imperfections. Every romantic relationship I had ended up with me being alone; this was never the picture I painted or fantasized about. However, this year I got tired of doing love my way and told God I would give my love life and dating life over to him. I made a decision to focus more on my dreams and aspirations to live my life more abundantly. I am a firm believer you can have it all the career, the man and the prosperity but it will mean patience is defintely required for the journey. Once I made a decision to stop looking for love and let love find me I became a happier soul. In my journey of living life abundantly I realized today I was no longer scared to love, the fear of love was no longer a fear. I was no longer scared to be transparent or vulnerable and love the man that will be compatible for me.

 

I had to learn the truth about the power of loving myself unconditionally. When you understand that love is attracted to you because it is who you are then love will not be hard to attract. As the months slip by in 2013 I am becoming more aware of how beautiful love is and can be. As a woman I have learned the secret of attracting love from a man is learning to love yourself and treat yourself with respect and unconditional love. I never felt like love was as close to me as it is now in my life. I understand who is the ultimate source of love---God. God is love. Love is fulfilling and incredible when you understand its power, its virtue and how much you deserve love. I started to affirm myself by being aware of how much I needed to love myself before anyone else could love me. Today, I challenge you to look at love differently and challenge your love walk for yourself. Do you love you for all of who you are..whether good or bad? What are the negative things you are saying to yourself about love? Do you fear love? If you answered Yes to any of these questions today is the day you tell yourself "I Deserve Love". It's time to break up with the false fearful image of love and affirm to yourself boldly: "I am love, I deserve love, I will not rush, force, manipulate or be deseparate or needy for love. I will be patient with love and prepare myself for love by loving myself first." The best example of love is godly love when Jesus died on the cross for you. Understand love is patient, kind, and all other things 1 Corinthians chapter 13 discusses. It is time for you to get a better realtionship with love by understanding you deserve to be loved.

 

 

Love Yourself First Then Love Can Love On You.....

 

Personal Challenge: Write Yourself a love letter!

Different Kind of Swagg

     The past few months I have been going through some changes.  Yeah, things in life change. Some things that are way beyond my control.  I have always heard that women start coming into their own in their 30s.  I believe that.  What I also believe is that a woman doesn't really come into her own until she begins to walk in who she was created to be.
     I have had some major changes in my life and lifestyle the past few years; a move to another state, two major break up, change in job, a different church and now completing my book.  These changes have shaped me just like my life previous to those changes shaped me. I would say that the more recent years have pushed me more in the direction of who I am created to be.
     I notice I smile a little more. I laugh a lot more.  I live a lot more. My walk is different. My conversation is different. My connections are different.  I am different.  I have started living the life that I said that I would live as a little girl in the third grade.  When my children got grown and gone I will write and travel.  I have decided NOT to wait until they are grown and gone.
     My first book release in a few weeks and I have another book project that I am currently brainstorming.  I realized to be my AUTHENTIC SELF, the woman that I was created to be, that it is my purpose in life is to SACRIFICE AND SERVE.  With the understanding that my life is not about myself, in order for me to be fulfilled living my life it is important for me to do what I was created to do.
     What will happen if I don't do what I was created to do?  The people that I am suppose to help will suffer and the people that they will help will suffer and so on.  The funny thing is that since I have become aware of who I am created to be, I have a different kind of swag