LOVE LIFE

          Christmas is in 5 days.  Then in 11 days the New Year will begin.  So many people, women, stress themselves out rushing here and there getting gift, fixing dinner and being around people they don’t really want to be around.  As the days inch closer and closer to the end of the old year and beginning of the New Year, then come the plans to go on a diet, lose weight, get a hobby something different from what you did the current year.  Thing is, it is always a NEW YEAR of doing the same old stuff.

    During the next few days I challenge you to think SERIOUSLY about what changes you would like to make in your life.  Not a resolution that you can change on a whim but a lifestyle change.  Maybe you need to get out more, read more or just try something different. 

     Originally I had scheduled a different dialog but the past few days in personal life and current events….I am finally starting to shake this sadness that I have been feeling.  In light of the recent massacre at the elementary school in Connecticut, the copycat that stabbed the kids in preschool, my daughter’s 8^th grade friend that hung herself all I can think about is LOVE LIFE.

     End this year loving yourself! That will but you in the practice for the New Year of loving YOURSELF. Look in the mirror find something that you like, love about yourself.  Think of something you would like to improve about yourself, your LIFESTYLE. A lifestyle change is permanent not like a resolution or a whim.  Think about a dream that you put some far in the back on you mind it has collected dust, pull it out and dust it off.  Try it on see if it still fits, if not try something else on.  Don’t live your life just moving from day to day.  Start waking up full of positive expectation and thankfulness.  There is someone that was born the same time as you that is no longer alive, that has use of their limb or even in their right mind.  There are some that are younger than you that will never get to live a life. Start giving yourself permission to LIVE!!! Say NO because you want to and not YES because of guilt or manipulation, it doesn’t mean you don’t love that person but it does mean that you love yourself MORE.  Laugh more, love more, hug more, and cry less.  You don’t want to live a full life, in age, but live a life of regrets, I wonder if, I would have, I could have, and I should have.

Your greatest VICTORIES are in your -->Future THINK BIG

LOVE LIFE

Independence At What Cost?

INDEPENDENT:

• ·         Not subject to control by others

• ·         Not requiring or relying on others

• ·         Showing a desire for freedom

• ·         Not relying on something else

                 Strong, smart, brave, pay my own bills, make my own decisions I don’t need NO man.  If I have heard that once, I heard that a million TIMES.  Independent is relative, meaning based on ones’ life experience.  To an 18 year old woman independence is not living under her mother’s rules and regulations but to a 30 year old woman independence is freedom, not subject to control by others, not requiring or relying on others.

Just a Little History

                The feminist movement (Women’s Movement, Women’s Liberation, or Women’s Lib) refers to a series of campaigns for reforms on issues such as reproductive rights, domestic violence, maternity leave, equal pay, women’s suffrage, sexual harassment and sexual violence.  This movement has been divided into 3 waves.  The first wave some women got the right to vote in 1918 and in 1925 ALL women got the right to vote.  The second wave (1960-1980) was when gender inequalities in law and culture were addressed. Then finally the third wave, in the early 1990s arose in response to the perceived failures of the second wave.

FAST FOWARD

                There is not so much of a glass ceiling for women.  There are women not only in the office around the country and world but they are running companies and taking care of home, mostly.   The woman IS the bread winner in many homes!  Often times this mutation of “The Independent” woman puts her and her family in a position that someone is missing out: the child (ren), spouse and the woman but not necessarily in that order.  Sometimes the woman is away from her children so much they are missing so many of the important things that ONLY a woman can provide to her child (ren).  So much so that the child (ren) are seeking other resources to fill or fuel their needs, cravings and yearning for what is missing.  That need, crave or yearn could be different per child but when you aren’t there to fulfill whatever it is….it can/will be filled by someone else and the same goes for your relationship with your mate.

Take a breather, relax and chill life is passing you by. Your children are getting older and your “man” is slowly slipping away because you are have put him pretty low on your priority list. Yeah, I know that you don’t need a man but it is nice to have one around to help you make decisions and support you…mentally and spiritually

Luke 9:25 New International Version

 What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?

 So you have the nice car, nice home, jewelry, etc. PLUS, you have provided these things for yourself.  God has put you in a position to get STUFF.  Sure, you have worked and sacrificed to have it ALL but at what cost?



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Value

When you know your worth, you don't allow people to waste your time nor fill your space with NOTHINGNESS.  Your time is valuable. Your words are valuable. Your space is valuable. Your thoughts are valuable. Your feelings are valuable.
How many friends do you have that when the conversation ends you feel tired, drained, spent.  Maybe you haven't noticed it. I'll give you a minute....If you can’t think of who that friend is; guess what, if is you.
Learn to value YOURSELF. You will see that others will begin to realize your worth. Be nice to yourself. Say nice things to yourself. Treat yourself to something nice....shoes, a trip to the spa, mani/pedi, some quiet time to yourself.
Minimize wasted time. When that friend calls, you know who it, and begins to fill your space with negativity turn it positive. If you can't steer the conversation into a positive direction, wrap the conversation up.  Don't become the dumping ground for others to release what is going on with them. Don't all their STUFF to infiltrate, infuse and permeate your lifestyle. If the conversation is a dump fest, keep the conversation to a minimum.









Value your PERSONAL time and SPACE. Learn to use and invest  your time wisely.  Get a hobby, read a book, spend time with yourself.  Start by taking 30 minutes, 1 hour, a few hours, a few days.  Turn your phone off, begin to limit your media access...that is internet and text.  Begin to journal about yourself, speak who you are into existence.  DE stress and do a mental detox.
 
 Know your worth and begin to VALUE yourself
If you DARE !!!!
 Share how you intend to begin to value yourself


 INSTRUCTIONS FOR MENTAL DETOX
Thanks to Stylicia Bowden

 http://www.theinspirationalcorner.blogspot.com/2012/10/data-dumpmental-detox-101-10-lessons.html