A New Weight Loss Program

GUEST BLOGGER***Karen Thomas****

With the new year just weeks away, change seems to be on everyone's mind.
Many see the new year as a time to do things differently or a new chance to change the things that they feel are keeping them from living their best life. So they make New Year's resolutions which brings promises of new love, new money and a new life.  One of the top resolutions that is often made is the resolve to lose weight.  People start the year out meal planning, starting diets and exercise programs all in hopes of losing those few extra pounds, only to find themselves 2-3 months into the new year giving up.
I'd like to submit to you that perhaps there is a different type of weight loss that needs to take place in this new year that may help with not only losing pounds but also with your finances, love life and business as well. 
This weight loss will get you in touch with the Authentic you.   I call this emotional weight loss.    With this weight loss regimen, you don't have to change your physical diet but you will have to change your mental diet. Let's take a look at this plan.  

What do I need to lose?

1. Negative self-talk.    What do you say to you when you make a mistake?
2. Naysayers.  Who do you allow to speak to you about your dreams?
3. Procrastination.  Procrastination can be the killer of dreams
4. Unproductive Relationships.  Do they cause you to grow and be better?
5. Fear.  This will keep you stuck. 

How do I lose this weight (the exercise program)?

1. Change how you speak to you. When you feel the urge to speak negatively about you, stop, breathe, and change your words...say the opposite.
2. Change your confidants.  Don't tell your dreams to those who don't believe in you or can't dream with you.
3. Take action.  Stop taking so much time contemplating and thinking about what to do and just do it. 
4. Change your friendships and relationships.  Understand that everyone is not equipped to be in your starting line-up (sports reference).  Some are meant to be on the bench, in the crowd and some are cheerleaders.  Learn who is supposed to play which position and put them there. 
5. Do things that scare you. I have found this is one of the ways to overcome some of your fears; the others, you'll just have to close your eyes and leap.

How do I maintain the weight loss (the meal plan)?

1.  Daily Affirmations. Say something great about you daily
2. Vision Board.  Write the vision so that you can put your eyes on it daily. Get it ingrained in your mind.
3. Continue to move forward. Give your goals dates and let nothing distract you.
4.  Don't be afraid or feel guilty about letting people go. Understand that everyone has a purpose in your life, figure out what their purpose is and move accordingly.
5.  Imagine what you could do if there was no fear. 

This is just a brief outline on how to get started to what is  your most important weight loss. This weight loss can not only lead you to losing physical weight but also losing the mental and emotional weight clears the way for finances, greater relationships and careers to reach you. Most of all it opens up the door to being your Authentic self!

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Karen Thomas, Founder/CEO of Sistas Healed & Empowered , is a natural motivator and talented life coach.  She uses her talents to help women make positive life changing decisions while coaching them to find peace during transition. Karen spent time working with women in transitional housing and public housing to help them gain independence after homelessness and incarceration.  As a mother of one daughter, Karen is a very active mother to not only her biological child but to many other children across the country.  Karen’s vision incorporates her desire to see women excel in life and overcome obstacles that have the potential to stifle their growth.  As she uses her own life experiences to teach and coach women she does so with transparency and an authentic spirit of love, compassion, and understanding.  Today Karen continues to offer her expertise to women everywhere through individual coaching, seminars, webinars, and speaking engagements. 

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Ms.Independent vs Ms. Self Sufficient

I posted a few days ago on my Facebook page "Real men are NOT intimidated by a "self sufficient" woman."Thanks Bruce Lee for being truthful.  I hear "single" women screaming ....I'm independent, I'm independent that is why I am single a man is intimidated by ME. Sit down and SHAD UP. You are single because a REAL man is not gonna put up with the drama you bring.  A REAL man will protect his woman, fight for his woman, love his woman, hold his woman and laugh with his woman. In the mean time MS. INDEPENDENT can't  tolerate this man. She thinks he is weak, a punk, too nice.  She wants a THUG. When she gets a REAL man she can/will ruin him.  She wants a man to be in her life financially but wants him to sit down and close his mouth when it comes to valid input/insight in her life.  MS. INDEPENDENT is often in different "relationship" because she seems to think that she intimidates men.
  Let me quickly EDUCATE you...there is a difference in independent and self sufficient.  The difference is happiness. An independent woman has no focus and pessimistic, nothing is ever good or right. She is always complaining, there is always some other woman that is jealous or a hater, at least in her mind's eye.  She always has some piece of man around that she chose for some weak reason then she disrespects and demasculates him for a weaker reason....to make her feel better about who she THINKS she is or who she wants others to think she is.  She lacks self-esteem, purpose or goals.  she often adorns her exterior with "things" to cover
Ms./Mrs. SELF SUFFICIENT may or man not have a man at her side.  She doesn't always have to prove she is INDEPENDENT by announcing "I'm an independent woman" It is in her stride, her face, her confidence.  She WILL follow a man with a plan. She knows her value and so does he.  She is confident in who she is and strives to be better.  She recognizes her GREATNESS  and walks in it. A woman that is self sufficient doesn't need a man to be who she is.  She understands that in a relationship that she and her mate both have roles.  Where he is weak she is strong and where she is weak  he is strong.  They compliment eachother.

Independence At What Cost?

INDEPENDENT:

• ·         Not subject to control by others

• ·         Not requiring or relying on others

• ·         Showing a desire for freedom

• ·         Not relying on something else

                 Strong, smart, brave, pay my own bills, make my own decisions I don’t need NO man.  If I have heard that once, I heard that a million TIMES.  Independent is relative, meaning based on ones’ life experience.  To an 18 year old woman independence is not living under her mother’s rules and regulations but to a 30 year old woman independence is freedom, not subject to control by others, not requiring or relying on others.

Just a Little History

                The feminist movement (Women’s Movement, Women’s Liberation, or Women’s Lib) refers to a series of campaigns for reforms on issues such as reproductive rights, domestic violence, maternity leave, equal pay, women’s suffrage, sexual harassment and sexual violence.  This movement has been divided into 3 waves.  The first wave some women got the right to vote in 1918 and in 1925 ALL women got the right to vote.  The second wave (1960-1980) was when gender inequalities in law and culture were addressed. Then finally the third wave, in the early 1990s arose in response to the perceived failures of the second wave.

FAST FOWARD

                There is not so much of a glass ceiling for women.  There are women not only in the office around the country and world but they are running companies and taking care of home, mostly.   The woman IS the bread winner in many homes!  Often times this mutation of “The Independent” woman puts her and her family in a position that someone is missing out: the child (ren), spouse and the woman but not necessarily in that order.  Sometimes the woman is away from her children so much they are missing so many of the important things that ONLY a woman can provide to her child (ren).  So much so that the child (ren) are seeking other resources to fill or fuel their needs, cravings and yearning for what is missing.  That need, crave or yearn could be different per child but when you aren’t there to fulfill whatever it is….it can/will be filled by someone else and the same goes for your relationship with your mate.

Take a breather, relax and chill life is passing you by. Your children are getting older and your “man” is slowly slipping away because you are have put him pretty low on your priority list. Yeah, I know that you don’t need a man but it is nice to have one around to help you make decisions and support you…mentally and spiritually

Luke 9:25 New International Version

 What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?

 So you have the nice car, nice home, jewelry, etc. PLUS, you have provided these things for yourself.  God has put you in a position to get STUFF.  Sure, you have worked and sacrificed to have it ALL but at what cost?



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