* GUEST BLOGGER* Stylicia Bowden

Born "Alpha", Woman That Is!

I know who I am, I embrace who I am and who I am is what I accept; no validation needed. ~Stylicia~

Its has been almost two years since I threw away the carbon copy of who I thought I was and traded it in for the unadulterated woman God created me to be. In this journey I have learn so much about myself and realized the authentic me had to emerge. I lived my life for years being a fake, pleasing other people because of my insecurities. In 2011, I got an epiphany and have not been the same ever since.  My circle of friends have changed and I realize this road to authenticity can be lonely when you start dancing to the own beat of your drum. In the first two months of 2013 the revelation of myself started to go deeper when I went on a 30 day soul detox. The big reveal was that I am not an ordinary woman but extraordinary woman. God created me with unique characteristics that I did not want to embrace. Have you ever asked God, "Why did you make me this way?" The simple answer is God loves me just the way I am and does not mind being patient with me to tame or deliver the things that will harm my success. So yesterday in deep conversation with a dear friend I brought up "The Alpha Woman". I told her we are Alpha Women, born to be this way. You may ask me, "Stylicia, what exactly is an Alpha Woman?" After intense research on the Alpha Woman I have complied a list of some characteristics that make me or you an Alpha Woman. Let's look deeper and embrace this "Alpha Woman" phenom.

The Unveiling Of The Alpha Woman : Characteristics

Characteristic #1: The Alpha Woman is Confident. She knows what she wants and go for it. Go Getter Mentality

Characteristic #2: The Alpha Woman is Independent. She believes in pushing her own weight and making things happen for herself.

Characteristic #3: The Alpha Woman is Purpose Driven. She knows her purpose in life and everyday she sets a target to fulfill her goals.

Characteristic #4: The Alpha Woman is aware of her power. She uses her feminine power to lead in a positive light. She is subtle and like the finer things in life.

Characteristic #5: The Alpha Woman is classy. She is wrapped in all things elegant.

Characteristic #6: The Alpha Woman is a trendsetter. She inspires people through her words, her style, and most of all through her presence.

Characteristic #7: The Alpha Woman does not have to demand respect, respect automatically follows her; everywhere she goes.

Characteristic #8: The Alpha Woman can sometimes be demanding. She lives her life on auto inspire & auto make a difference. She is out to change the world.
Characteristic #9 The Alpha Woman is confident.
Characteristic #10 The Alpha Woman is authentic.
Characteristic #11: The Alpha Woman is intellectual. She loves to gain knowledge through educating herself for the next big takeover.
Characteristic #12: The Alpha Woman is unique. She never tries to blend in because she knows her worth and she knows she is an original. No one can imitate her.

Does this sound like you? Well if so, join the bandwagon I AM AN ALPHA WOMAN, TOO! Embrace who you are, allow God to perfect it and balance you out. Never be ashamed of who you are be that "Alpha Woman" you were born to be!

Examples of Alpha Women:

1) Beyonce

2) Oprah Winfrey

3) First Lady Michelle Obama

4) Tyra Banks

5) Jada Pinkett
6) Alicia Keys
7) Queen Latifah
8) Angela Bassett
9) Mary J Blige 

Stylicia Bowden is a self published Author of several book

The Inspirational Corner

Soulseeker

All About Him: The Experience

The Writer's Block

The Princess Within: The Soul of a Woman 

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Authentic SELF

     When I think about womanhood, I think about Proverbs 31:10-31.  A good woman is hard to find but she is priceless.  There are so many women that say that a good man is hard to find.  I would say that it is about the same for both men and women.  There are some of us that really believe that we are good, but are we.  Not many of us will admit to our short comings and even fewer of us are willing to change.  We are more likely to accept that someone else has the problem versus look in the mirror.
    Our problems are festering on the inside and oozing out. From the horrible things that we are doing to ourselves to the nastiness that we are infecting our daughters with. There are so many disgusting things that we do to the girlfriends we say we love. Beautiful women with such ugliness inside. Who are you, really? Is the woman that you present yourself to be the real you. Are you being your AUTHENTIC SELF?

  I recently interviewed Stylicia Bowden

Authentic Self*Stylicia

Me: What is being your authentic self to you?

Stylicia: When you are your authentic self you are able to be true to yourself by being real with yourself. The only way to be your authentic self is getting to the core of who you are by dealing with your issues.

Me: What does womanhood mean to you?

Stylicia: Womanhood is not defined by age but it is the pivotal moment of maturity by the actions you display in all facets of life.

Me: I recently read your blog, in particular, Beauty and the Beast. Do you think this is a factor that drives a girl/woman?

Stylicia: I believe anger is a factor that drives anyone into a place of being uncontrollable and not utilizing sound judgement. It is important to balance the anger by learning to overcome each situation with peace. I believe in womanhood especially in our sisterhood we allow irrelevant things such as anger, jealousy, hatred etc. drive us apart.

Me: Do you think that women have lost what being a woman is about?

Stylicia: Yes

Me:Why or why not?

Stylicia: I believe women do not know who they are so they search to find who they really are through their experiences, TV, magazines and more. Women who do not deal with their baggage can damage an innocent bystander. 

The entire interview in my upcoming book.......
 
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Stylicia's Bio

Poet/Author/Blogger/Speaker 

www.styliciabowden.com 

   Ms. Bowden was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan, "The Motor City" where she started creative writing at the young age of eight years old. She wrote poems, plays, short stories and songs throughout her childhood. Creative writing was a way to express her thoughts and emotions freely without judgment from the outside world. As she grew writing became a language she often use to translate internal feelings on paper. However, after spending nine years in the military she used her traveling experiences to develop her writing skills. Before exiting the United States Navy she went on to complete four self published poetic literary works entitled: The Princess Within: The Soul Of A Woman, Soulseeker, All About Him: The Experience and The Writer’s Block: The Sound Of The Spoken Word.

    In Stylicia's budding career she has appeared on numerous blogs, radio and TV shows. Ms. Bowden poetic work has been featured on Essence "My Black Is Beautiful" website for her poetic piece entitled "Blaque Girls Rock". Ms. Bowden has also appeared in February, April and July 2012 issue of Essence Magazine. However since her career has taken flight she has produced and hosted her own poetry show in Charleston, SC entitled "A Night Of Poetic Elegance" for two consecutive years. In order to take her poetic vernacular to another level Ms. Bowden also produced and completed two spoken word albums entitled "The Sound Of The Spoken Word" and "The Anthology Of My Soul". Stylicia's ultimate desire is to continue to allow her poetic writing gift to make room for her God given artistry to bring her in the company of other like minded individuals. Her passion for her artistry allows her to continue to set standards and break barriers in her writing genre.

Literary Interviews via Radio/Internet/TV:

The Tammy Show (Comcast Channel 2) Charleston, SC- August 7^th, 2008

Low County Live (Channel 4) Charleston, SC-August 17,2010

Love of Spoken Word & Neo-Soul(Blog Talk Radio) –October 21, 2010

Vox Poetica 15 minutes of Poetry w/ Annmarie Lockhart –November 11^th, 2010

The Beautiful Butterfly Show-September 16^th, 2011

Live Talk With Lynette Magic 107.3FM Charleston, SC-Oct 2, 2011

WHFR-89.3 FM Radio “Strictly Gospel w/Andy Parks” Interview Dearborn, MI-July 3rd, 2011

Lowcountry Parent Magazine- November 1st, 2012

Guest Blog Featurettes

The Proverbs 31 Woman

http://tinyurl.com/8bwomlv

College Girl Inc.

http://tinyurl.com/9p7ktxr

Awards

1st Annual Spoken Word Billboard Awards (Individual Poetic Piece), Canton Michigan