In the social sciences, the word "clique" is used to describe a group of 2 to 12 (averaging 5 or 6) "persons who interact with each other more regularly and intensely than others in the same setting".Interacting with cliques is part of normative social development regardless of gender, ethnicity, or popularity. Although cliques are most commonly studied during adolescence and middle childhood, they exist in all age groups.
Functionally, a clique is indistinguishable from an obedience-cult. Membership in a clique always requires the surrender of individuality
I recently have been reading up on some things about girls/women and cliques. I liked the definition above, best. Another thing about should be included is the fact that ADULT women also participate in Cliques. These groups can be positive or negative influence in our lives.
It is slowly becoming the silent killer of women. In our struggle to prove our strength and independence, we have traded in kindness, love, compassion, dignity and respect for mean malicious and disrespect. The trade off has allowed us to pass this broken legacy to our daughters. Our daughters have learned to be mean and catty by watching us. This is their understanding of a normal part of being a female. They grow the seed that we have planted and plant the same seed into future generations.
TO BREAK THE CYCLE:
We must make a conscious effort validate ALL WOMEN, friend or not. If we don’t make this effort we will continue to move in cliques of hostility, suspicion and pain.
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Talking about each other
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Fighting over men
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Joining female gangs*common places* work, church,
neighborhood.
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Undermining each other
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Competing against each other
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Disrespecting boundaries
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Crossing boundaries
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Exploiting our friendship
It all begins within YOU!!!
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